I didn't get the saying wrong I swear! I know we are supposed to treat others the way we want to be treated, but have you ever noticed that you are in fact nicer to others than you are to yourself??
Our internal dialogues are often negative, we blame ourselves, feel guilt, shame, anger; tell ourselves that we are just not good enough, or not as good as________ (whoever we seem to be comparing ourselves to); we are so hard on ourselves! In truth, if your friend said to you the things that you say to yourself, how fast would you end your friendship??? I hope the answer is really quickly!
How often have you ever said to a friend the things you say to yourself? - as in tell your friend they aren't good enough, or they have bad skin, and could lose a couple pounds? Never! They wouldn't be our friend anymore, and in truth, you probably think they would be crazy to think those things about themselves. You see how nice they are, how beautiful they are, and how much you care about them, and they care about you.
So I think that we should treat ourselves the way we treat others. It's not just that we want other people to treat us with kindness, compassion, respect, etc., we want to treat ourselves that way too.
When you are talking to yourself, listen to what you are saying, and if you wouldn't ever in a million years say that to your friend, or your family, STOP, change it into something positive, and treat yourself with the kindness, compassion and respect you know you deserve. I promise it will make you happier!
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